1. Set an individualized bedtime
School-age children need between 9 and 12 hours of sleep each night, but there’s a lot of variability in sleep needs and patterns. Most kids have patterns that don’t change much, no matter what you do. An early riser will still get up early even if you put them to bed later and a night owl won’t usually fall asleep until their body is ready. Know how much sleep your child needs in order to wake up refreshed and you can set an appropriate bedtime.
2. Set a wake-up time
If you know how much sleep your child needs and what time they go to bed, it’s simple math to set a daily wakeup time. Allowing your child to sleep a little later on weekends and holidays is generous, but it can set you up for a long, sleepless night. Those extra hours of sleep will affect your child like jet-lag, making it hard for their body to feel tired at bedtime.
3. Have a consistent bedtime routine
Routines are especially important for infants, toddlers and preschoolers. Doing specific things before bed, such as bath and story time, signal to your child what’s coming next. Knowing what comes next is comforting and relaxing, setting the perfect bedtime atmosphere. Before long, your child’s body may automatically start to become sleepy at the beginning of their routine.
4. Turn off the TV at least two hours before bedtime
Research has shown that the light from a television screen (or computer monitor) can interfere with the production of the hormone melatonin. Melatonin is an important piece of sleep-wake cycles. When melatonin levels are at their highest, most people are sleepy and ready for bed. Just a half an hour of TV before bed can mess with that enough to keep your child up an extra two hours!
5. Reduce stress before bedtime
Another hormone that plays a role in sleep is cortisol, also known as the “stress hormone.” When cortisol levels are high, your child’s body won’t be able to shut down and go to sleep. Keeping before bedtime activities calm, the lights dim, and the environment quiet can help avoid excess amounts of cortisol in your child’s system.
6. Create a sleep-inducing environment
While a stuffed animal can make it easier for your child sleep, too many toys can make it harder. Soft sheets, room-darkening shades, and relative quiet can help your child differentiate between day and night, making it easier to fall asleep.
7. Keep it cool
Your child’s sleep cycle isn’t just dependent on light (or the lack thereof), it’s also sensitive to temperature. Melatonin levels help to regulate the drop of internal body temperature needed to sleep, but you can help regulate the external temperature. Don’t bundle your child up too tightly or set the heat too high; typical room temperature or a little cooler is better to promote deep sleep.
8. Provide protection from fears
Instead of dismissing bedtime fears, address them. If simple reassurance doesn’t work, you can try buying a special toy to stand guard at night or spray the room with “monster spray” before bed. (A can of air freshener with a creative new label works well.)
9. Reduce the focus on sleep
Just like adults, kids can have trouble shutting their brains off for the night. Instead of increasing that anxiety by insisting it’s time to sleep, consider focusing more on the idea of relaxation and calming your child’s body down
10.Be on the lookout for sleep disorders
If, despite your best efforts, your child continues to have trouble falling asleep, staying asleep during the night or has nightmares or night terrors, they might have a genuine sleep disorder. Talk to their pediatrician about your concerns.